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No problem. All that sounds very good. No need for double standards. You should both trust and both be trustworthy.

(btw, I think that if you handle it right she'll be happy enough that you changed your mind that she'll make you happier too.)

Thanks for the input. I have been thinking about this all day. I think that I will let her go, if she can eliminate this double standard that has somehow established itself in our relationship. She should not be able to do something that she would not want me to do.

Thank you.

It's a female friend? Tell her to go and have a good time. That's what I would do with my wife. If you ever want to go on a short trip with friends then you should go and have a good time. She should be able to go without your hassling her. Her logic is faulty too though. Work trips are not vacations so you should make sure she knows that. Also, if she can go then you can go on a trip when it comes up too -- your friends are not you. She doesn't have anything to worry about if you go out with your friends does she? I am assuming that neither of your plan on taking these seperate trips very often. So when a rare opportunity comes up just relax and enjoy it.

You both should trust each other, plain and simple. If you can't trust each other then you have bigger issues to deal with than a little vacation.

On another note, since you two are married it would have been kind for her friend to have invited you too. There's nothing wrong with the ladies taking time for their friendship either though.

Just wondering on your take on this subject. My wife and I have been married about 2 months and her friend invited her to go to Puerto Rico with her to visit family. I told her that I didn't want her to go and said that the whole reason we got married was to be together. She views the oppertunity as "once in a lifetime" and is pissed at me because I don't want her to go. She then brought up the fact that I have to travel every once in a while for work and compared these trips to "vacations."

My secondary objection to this trip is the fact that I know she would never allow me to go on a similar trip with one of my friends. I asked her what she would do if the roles were reversed, and she said that she wouldn't want me to go. She says that she trusts me, but not my friends, which I think really means that she doesn't trust me.

She says I am being childish in denying her this "oppertunity."

What do you think? Am I right or wrong?

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